There's something so exciting about a new relationship. I don't know what it is about it I like the most exactly. Maybe how every new thing you learn about your boy makes you feel so much closer, like you're a part of his world. Or that feeling you get when you look at him across the table at one of those awkward first dinner dates and think "wow, this guys all mine." It's a really nice feeling.
But to me, there's nothing more "nice" than your first hookup together! That first steamy kiss, especially when you're going through a dry patch *ahem* is so exhilerating, it's like you never want to stop. But more than that it can be so weird because you don't know every single thing about this guy! You don't know what he finds cute, what he wants, what he likes. That explosion of butterflies... The way he kisses is new and exciting. Starting fresh is amazing!
And then out of nowhere those butterflies go blah? Now what?
What do you do when you have a caring boy that provides you with all the love and support you need... and you start to feel like you're seriously missing out on that amazing little spark? And all the hookups you could be scoring with your ticking teenage charm? I mean, that won't last forever will it? And hey, while I'm young something in me is telling me to date around while I have the chance to figure out what I like in a guy.
"Life isn't about hookups" my moms told me, irritated as usual by my philosophy. (She thinks I don't know about what she got up to when she was my age)... And while I obviously know that, she also makes it seem like I should be marrying this boyfriend I have. But at 17, it's terrifying for me to think "this is it." I never envisioned myself being in such a long relationship at this age. Sure he's sweet and amazing... But I'm afraid I'll feel deprived, like I haven't gotten all those firsts out of my system.
"Butterflies go away" I've been told. You don't see married couples giggling and sneaking off together like teenagers. These longterm couples are comfortable. They know everything about each other. They know what makes their partner tick. Now that's special too.
And when you're spending so much of your time involved with this significant other there's a lot of past their. Stories, and beautiful moments you share... And while butterflies may fade the comfort there is more than enough reason to stick around.
But what about when things get too comfortable?
Would you break away from a comfotable relationship to play the field? Whats your favorite thing about a new relationship? Date around or one long term commited relationship? Could you see yourself marrying a high school sweetheart? Let me know your take on all this in the comments :)
For the love of boots and boys,